Decision Maker

Sanur

As the firstborn, I am "automatically responsible" to my other siblings. That trained me so well on how to be a decision-maker. Because at any time, small things happening, I have to make the right and quick decision. That includes what I have to do with my life so that my siblings can see the good there. Would be better if they can do better than me. 

Burdened by, "You have to be the best example for your siblings to follow". Well... I believe many of you feel that way. 

I grew up studied mathematics in university. No, I don't really remember what did I learn that much. Perhaps only 50% of all classes I took. But one thing I know, this whole mathematics class for 9 semesters taught me how to simplify bigger problems, turn them into smaller ones, and make the right decision. At least, acceptable decision. I use my brain more than feelings when I make a decision. Although I know, a little bit touch of feeling is good too. I just, never make any decision when I am too emotional. 

How to make a quick decision when I am too emotional? I take a few steps back, cooling down my head, take a sip of coffee or anything cold, eat, then start to work on the problem. Usually, after I eat I get so sleepy (?), no I mean, I get clear and visible thoughts in my head. That way I can think better. Never ever make a decision when you're too emotional. I can even put aside my feelings when I need to use my logic.

Before my mathematics years, I had messy thoughts. I can decide but it's all messy and unprofessional. But after I graduated, it slowly became in order. I don't go from A to B to A then C to B again. No, I don't do that. That goes against the principal. I go from A to B to C to D to etc. And it's all about training yourself.

Make a decision is a piece of cake for me. I will gather the background I need, the proofs I need, analyze them one by one, eliminate the cons, then decide. It's easy. This is applied in my life not only personal but also professional. It's really helpful. 

How do you know that someone is a decision-maker? Ask her/his plans what to do. Decision-makers usually have more than one plan over a case (just in case lol). Each plan will have a final decision, so it won't be an imaginative plan. They will give you reasons why they decide that way. 

I can make a decision in a short time and under pressure. But hey, that doesn't mean I love to work under pressure eh!

I am thinking this all because one of my students said that she loves to get command because she doesn't need to think about what to do. Just simply doing it then done. Of course, it's simpler and easier. I've seen so many people like that fail to make crucial decisions because they are not so used to make one.

This way I have this on my mind, "Ah the balance of the world we're live in. Imagine if we all want to be the ones who make the decision, and vice versa." But in my opinion, able to make the decision at least for yourself, for your personal matter is actually needed. Just in case you want to train yourself that, try to take math classes. It'd be helpful 😂