It is one of the books that blown my mind. It's very well written and would probably relate with a lot of people who are in their journey to find themselves. So many people are talking about it but I did not buy it until a few months ago where I read the preview on the first pages. Easy for me to see if I want to buy the book or not. When the first pages hook me right away, I don't need to think twice. This book is one of them. This contains spoiler of course. Nora, the main character, like many of us, fall into depression and decided to kill herself. But she's not dead right away. She went into a kind of limbo between life and death. In that library she met a librarian, this librarian is a kind of a guide. Our guide that probably tasked when we were born. The librarian shows her lives that she could have had if she wants to. She is so depressed and thinks that no life will makes her happy enough to live it. I can totally understand her state. I was there....
Be it something or someone, they will be coming and going, in and out your life. I believe that something/someone has their own period to be in your life.
I used to be so attached to something, rarely to someone though. I remember the first time I felt that I lost something important in my life was when I had my favorite hair tie with me. It was part of the dress that I had, it was blue, nice dress. I loved it. That happened when I was around 10 I think. I had that hair tie on, then took it off when I took shower after beach day.
When I take it off, I told myself to remember to take it back with me. But of course I forgot it, I remembered that I left it when I was already in my grandma's house. I was so sad because it was my favorite. Even weirder that I vividly remember that even now.
I used to say that I can't live without my sammy (that old samsung laptop) until it stopped working like I wanted due to the ... well... it got to 9 years of usage so he served me well.
Years gone by, I learned to accept the fact that something will be coming and going. Something or someone will be coming and going in and out our lives to simply teach us something. I have my favorite people coming and going in my life. We had great memories together, sometimes bad memories that I keep remembering and trying to take the lessons out of it.
Sometimes when I think about the great memories that passed, it crossed my mind that "Yes, we had fun together. I had so much fun with them, I learned a lot of important lessons along the way, but the time has come for us to grow apart." Growing apart is not always bad. Of course I sometimes feel that "What would happen if we're still together now? Would I be good influence for them, or bad or the other way around?" We never know.
But one thing I also learn is sometimes we will reconnect with people who were in our lives. And see if it is gonna be different or the same like it was. Sometimes you find comfort in the stillness that you both have together, but sometimes it can be discomfort too. Some people will try to bring things like it used to be, some will find the changes on someone is too much and bringing discomfort, while some others will connect better with the new you. People can grow apart or grow together towards the same goal.
Some people love to challenge their own beliefs, their own morals, their own values, until they find that some of them fit them well or need to be changed. Some, will be comfortable enough staying the same and deal with no changes in their lives.
Well in my opinion, you have to change to be better person. Not the better person than other people but the better person than you were. How can the now-you be the same as the 10-years-you?
There are things that we can change to be better, at the same time there are things we can't change too. In the end, that's when we learn to accept things as it is. That some people will be coming and going. That they will learn from you, you will learn from them, and move on when it's time.
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